Thursday, May 05, 2011

Too-Ism: The Discrimination from Within the Queer Male Community

Too-Ism: The Discrimination From Within the Queer Male Community

The topic of internalized discrimination within the Queer male community is another issue within the complicated LGBTQ mix. In this David D. Moss video, several men describe their experiences ranging from an individual who feels "invisible" when he moves about in gay bars due his age to another who has been victimized due to his weight. Also included in the interviews is an Asian-American who speaks to overt racism he has felt from those who have stated they didn't find "them," meaning "Asians" attractive. This type of attitude is no secret in the gay male community and has been prevalent as well as perpetuated within the sub-culture on numerous levels. If you check most gay media, people of color are "MIA" (missing in action) while magazines, e-zines, and other publications tout the Caucasian "youthful, biceps, butts and boxes" image that doesn't totally represent across the board. Originally on YouTube, this video has had several thousand views as well as gotten mixed comments. Interesting but expected, a faction of those commenting believe that this behavior is rooted in preferences not discrimination. You've seen the personal ads on Adam 4 Adam, ManCrunch or Craig's List denoting "no fems, fags or fats,"which fuels the premise that only certain people make the cut.  I've been subject this phenomenon personally by being referred to as "snow queen," a reference to Black men who date inter racially. In return for those White men who are attracted to men of color are tagged with such derogatory terms of "jungle bunnies," "dinge queen," or " rice queen." And yes, I've heard the "N" word uttered in local bars and from the very folks who feel the greater society is a barrier to their social justice. All the while dismissing people before getting to know the individuals personal history, journey or victories.  Ultimately, this piece is design to make one grasp for a "teachable moment" in their daily living. If we can't love within our community without hate, then how can we expect to get the respect otherwise.

Agenda in the Rock

Our first post mentioned the successes of the reapeal of the adoption ban and legislation concerning bullying, I didn't mentioned the all important Fed regulation of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" which will affect many Arkansans in the military. But with these behind us, its all about what issues lie ahead and exactly who will be capable of putting the shoulder to the wheel to get something done. One reader e-mailed me to state that from where they stand, the issue of homeless youth and transpersons is number one on there radar.Therefore they are planning a comunity meeting concerning the direction of Lucie's Place, Monday,  May 9, 6 p.m. at Boulevard Bread Company, 1417 Main Street. COP encourages readers to attend and learn more about there future plans. Although its good to know that this effort is going forth, there are many issues that will require some attention from the voting public and that's each of you. So where do we began is the question and we will wait for your comments.

Welcome Back!

Just as we were getting out of the gate this week, I have already heard from a few of you who have tuned in to see what we were up to. Getting back to the boards has been challenging, but with your support and enthusiasm we will get up to speed in no time. Creating this forum is always a work in progress and the time as well as effort it takes will result in content that you will find valuable and useful. Stay in touch and tell your friends that CorneliusOnpoint is at it again...


1 comment:

Diedra J. Levi said...

Hurt people hurt people. As we relieve our oppressions we look for someone/some community to oppress. This is a cycle that without acknowledgement will continue until we get mad enough to stop it. The gay community flourishes on "isms". Racism, classism, ageism and sizeism are the ones that lead us further into internalized homophobia. Just as Bayard Rustin predicted, gay rights will be and now is the next movement in civil justice. But there is not a unified movement because we think of every reason to dislike each other. Some of us don't like trans people, people in socioeconomic structures unlike ours, or people who are out.
We even go as far as to judge just how gay one should be in public ("that's too gay" or "he's too flaming").
At some point, we must learn to love ourselves enough to not let the actions or behaviors of others jeopardize our own authentic selves. We can march with rainbow flags until the cows come home but no one will accept,affirm or love you until you make it an inside job.

Diedra Levi
CEO - The Living Affected Corporation