Monday, February 16, 2009

Voices Carry, Part 3

The featured topic last week was "matter of the heart." I put my own relationship front and center in which I mentioned that my long time companion and myself were reassessing our commitment as we approach year 14. Yes, my pretties, 14 long years that has been just as tested by those faithful words "for better or worse," as uttered by my fellow citizens who are formally allowed to marry. Our relationship in all it's complexities has endured everything that any ordinary coupling would experience, including weddings although not our own, celebrations, pets, mortgages, debt, taxes and death. All of it, nicely packaged for our daily consumption all these years. As we posted about finding love, loosing love or looking for love, I was not surprised to hear from a few of you who are going through the many emotions as you pursue this thing we call a "relationship." One such case involved an individual who thought he had found his love connection only to discover that his den became empty as his mate went looking for love in wide open spaces. He's taken it hard and as trite as it may sound. I do understand, really I do. When you face the reality that "love doesn't live here anymore," it's a bitter a pill to take. But, going off the radar or raging into to violence is simply not the answer. Vent your anger, but don't let it consume you, while preventing love from finding you again. There were other's that shared and I thank you for your confidence. This forum is here, not only for the rant of the day, but when there are people who are hurting and need a comforting word from cyberspace. Don't forget that this space is for personal advice not professional. Therefore, if you need to reach out and touch for a deeper thought inspection get in touch with your local health or mental provider. Of course, at this point you are dying to know, how things worked out with that assessment. Well, I'll tell you all about it this Wednesday. Stay tuned....I know you want to know!

Prop 8 Aftermath: This love thing is a big issue and I had to include this video and text from the Courage Campaign concerning the marriage strife being heaped upon those who decided to get married in California. Apparently, Ken Starr, yes just in case you forgot, that Ken Starr who investigated the Clintons without any real results has been at the center of repealing those marriages. Also Starr was the prosecutor who led the campaign to impeach President Bill Clinton has filed a legal brief -- on behalf of the "Yes on 8" campaign -- that would forcibly divorce the 18,000 same-sex couples married in California last year before the passage of Prop 8. News broke Tuesday that the state Supreme Court will hear oral arguments on March 5, and will then make a decision within 90 days on the validity of Prop 8 and these 18,000 marriages. When Starr's legal brief went public in December, the Courage Campaign immediately launched the "Don't Divorce..." campaign, asking our members to send us pictures with a simple message for Starr and the Prop 8 Legal Defense Fund.Those pictures, and the heartfelt messages on them, inspired blogger Paul Delehanty (also known as "kid oakland") to suggest Regina Spektor hit song "Fidelity," be put to pictures featuring married couples, their friends and family. It's a poignant offering that I wanted to share. For more info and to participate in the online petition here's the link: The deadline for participation has been extended to 3.2.09

"Fidelity": Don't Divorce... from Courage Campaign on Vimeo.

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